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well expressed Gracey and shows you and DH have done your work, alone and together, to be at that level of understanding.
yOm--please listen to the voices of experience shared here as these folks know of what they write. a child is innocence.....not the key to a relationship between the creators of such beautiful innocence.
please find ways to work on whatever issues the two of you face instead of dreaming a kid will fix things. that's not a dream to pin your hopes on.