Lol....at my 10 year high school reunion I had just received my BS degree & was starting my computer engineering degree. 10 yeaes aftef because I floundered for awhile getting an AA in music a useless major for me. I had no help in high school from teachers. They were busy helping those they knew would be successful because they were excelling in high school. My parents had no concept of what a college education was about & my dad didn't even want me going to college (but thought it was nice after I graduated & ended up in a good career).

Teachers not investing time is something like in business called "return on investment". It depends on where they are coming from, what kind of return they are looking for. Helping someone in trouble or helping someone succeed who already shows potential. They usually are ONLY thinking about career success, not personal success.

I had to sort out my life all the way through because my parents were so dysfunctional & even though I excelled in school most of the time, I was quiet & shy because of my family so I basically always flew below the radar.

Lol..I remember a guy at out 10 year class reunion who I had gone all the way through school with (unusual because our graduating class in 1970 was over 1000 kids). He always puffed himself up & at the reunion he was no different. Instead of just being a normal down to earth person, he came in wearing a big old cowboy hat (our school was in Los Angeles), bragging about moving to Texas & having a wonderful paying job & he made sure to drive up to the venue in a BRIGHT YELLOW NEW Comero. I still swear he rented the car just to make that huge impression because that was ALWAYS his personality.

Yes, I looked successful, I had my Accounting & Conputer Science Degree I finally ended up with, had a successful computer engineering career (that only lasted 15 years). I was married to another engineer. We owned a home, had our daughter. I was akso treasurer of our HOA in our first house, I performed my flute is chamber groups, did backpacking trips into the Sierra's & Rockies, winter vacationed to Jackson Hole to our condo for skiing every year for 20 years.

BUT...........that did NOT SHOW all the fighting that went on at home & how miserable is qas to be married to the person I was married to. I had to go on strike doing things to force him to do anything in the family & I was ALWAYS cleaning up messes he made financially. It got so bad after I no longer had my career that ending my life seemed like my ONLY option to get out on the marriage I was then financially trapped in.

What looks good from the outside isn't always what is going on in someone's life. This was back in the late 90's long before FB even existed.

No, people don't air their dirty laundry publically & sometimes they don't even understand their own dirty laundry at the time. It took me 7 years after leaving before I was able to put my own puzzle pieces together to understand even mist of what I have written here.