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I need my regular T, I need him to stabalize me through this, I just need the pain to go away!!

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">Absolutely, please tell him this so you can get the support you need.

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Staying means dealing with him, he won't leave, he was going to, then changed his mind and told me if I wanted the seperation then I should be the one to leave, and the kids are not going!!

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">I see what you mean about how he twists things. Because as I recall, he is the one who originally wanted to end the marriage and you did not. And you worked with your T on accepting the marriage is over. Now he twists it and says you wanted the separation and he did not. He's a real piece of work. You know the truth. Don't listen to him. He had the affair, he wanted the marriage to end, so he has to leave. That's how it works. And especially since you only work part time, you cannot go out on your own and get a new place to live. He needs to do that as he is more financially able. I recommend having your lawyer file a document with the court to get him out of the house due to his verbal and emotional abuse. It seems like he won't leave any other way. Your lawyer can file another document with the court to get you temporary financial support from your H until you reach a settlement. You don't need to wait for an official legal separation to get support if you file this temporary order. Then you can take a little time with the settlement and do it right.

I have to echo what Jello wrote. You are so very, very strong and have put up with so much. You are inspiring.