EV - interesting how that worked for you in that way - and ... that it was taken from you =( I get how it would seem to desexualize a woman. (pre teen)

Likewise, sometime around 7-8 i started sleeping with undies on (and have ever since) for the same reason. I didn't even remember ever not wearing them until my mom questioned me.

I do feel too threatened without them on at night - even when alone in the entire house. I mean, like the bra, i know that really, it is no magic shield. I know way too well. But i can't erace that in my thinking - in my body memory. At least, not yet.

(((((((((((hope you're ok)))))))))))))