
Mar 17, 2018, 11:52 PM
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When I was younger I was an optimist. I wasn't stupid or ignorant, I just had high hopes for what the world could be. Part of me still had high hopes for what the world can be, but I'm also a realist now. I know what reality is and I look at situations and expect reality out of them. I don't expect the worst or the best. I look at the facts and try to forecast a reasonable outcome. I can be pessimistic but I try not to let myself go there because honestly I'd just have to kill myself.
But yes, I am with you on the male/female relations BS....I see the same problems all around me. Part of it, I know, is where I live. I can't find anyone I can date here for the life of me. In fact, eHarmony hasn't sent me a match in weeks because no one in my geographic area matches with me...(mostly due to religion and politics, things I'm not willing to compromise on...with friends sure, with my "match" no). As far as corruption, all I can say is, YUP. It's everywhere. And the problem is always to blame the victim. Nothing new there. All I can do is try and stand up for what's right and make sure I can sleep at night.
James Levine was recently fired from the Met Opera FINALLY after decades of alleged misconduct. I do not know if the allegations are true, but what I can say, from my own experience, is that in the classical music industry there is LOADS of sexual harassment going on by the old white men in charge and they never get in trouble for it. I say it from first-hand experience. But I have been as vocal as I can be about it and stood my ground, and that is all I can do. The only way we can fight corruption is to shine a light on it and not stop. Momentum builds and then things like the #metoo movement take hold or the kids take a stand like the Parkland students. Every snowball that starts has to start with a few snow flurries falling first...
Human relations, well...don't get me started.
I feel ya, Emily. I don't have any advice for feeling better about it, except that it's okay to hold on to some optimism. It's okay to be all three in different aspects of our lives.
For change we want to see in the world, optimism is good. For insurance, pessimism is good. For most other things, being pragmatic is fairly safe and reasonable.
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Primary Dx: C-PTSD and Severe Chronic Treatment Resistant Major Depressive Disorder
Secondary Dx: Generalized Anxiety Disorder with mild Agoraphobia.
Meds I've tried: Prozac, Zoloft, Celexa, Effexor, Remeron, Elavil, Wellbutrin, Risperidone, Abilify, Prazosin, Paxil, Trazadone, Tramadol, Topomax, Xanax, Propranolol, Valium, Visteril, Vraylar, Selinor, Clonopin, Ambien
Treatments I've done: CBT, DBT, Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation (TMS), Talk therapy, psychotherapy, exercise, diet, sleeping more, sleeping less...
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