We have had a couple IEP meetings at the elementary school, especially when my daughter was in kindergarten and first grade. They promised they would set up some type of occupational therapy at the school to help my daughter with issues that affected her daily life in regards to the school system, but they never did a thing about it.

Unfortunately, her school has a high turnover of counselors and staff such as assistant principals. The main principal is wonderful to have if you are a parent, but it is obvious she is a workaholic. I think this stresses a lot of her staff and causes the high turnover rates.

This year, there is yet again a new counselor. Now, the teachers seem to take it in stride that my daughter is quirky and hates loud noises, the kids too. As it happens, that school has a dual language program (Spanish/English). They only have 2 sections of dual classes per grade, so those kids are kept together grades K-5. The section composition will change slightly each school year, but it is always the same kids, unless a native Spanish speaker moves into the school district; the district puts all elementary native Spanish speakers in the one dual language program it has, which is at my daughters' school. So now, not only are the teachers used to her, but so are her classmates because they don't change much over the years and the dual classes usually share specials like P.E., music, computers, recess. This year, her math & science teacher was her old math & science teacher from 2nd grade.

I feel like the school has forgotten about the promises the old counselor made at that IEP years ago, but I don't want to be confrontational about it, a helicopter problematic parent, and some of my daughter's behaviors have improved, such as she no longer has meltdowns in the library when she cannot just go to the same section, find a book in the same series on her reading level, and check it out.

I could be more pro-active and have the state on my side if my husband would just let me get her pediatrician to give her a 504 label. The 504 label can stand for a lot of things, not all of them with a positive association such as learning disorders, ADD/ADHD, dyslexia, mood disorders, autism, sensory disorders, etc. It's a long list. A teacher gets a child with a 504 label, they have to go through the files and find the exact issue. In contrast, when the school wanted to give my daughter a GT label (gifted & talented), my husband was all for that. I feel like if I had his support, I could just do more for my daughter.