Maybe you've found yourself at a crossroad. I know after a nine year relationship I had to do some soul searching because after all those years of being with someone i had neglected myself, and there wasn't much to love about me. I parted ways with the love of my life and I started to work out, became a vegetarian, went to college and got a degree, started reading voraciously. I was reborn, stronger than ever. I'm not saying you need a split, but maybe it's time to do a shakeup, and learn more about your deep passions, work out more, read a few books a month, search for more music you haven't listened to before.

You have to be happy with you, too. And if you're not flourishing then I think that's reason to be concerned. Push your emotions, push your mind, push your body, but leave some down time too. If she doesn't admire that kind of motivation then so be it.

I'm sorry this is happening man.