That's a bully for you. You said it right there ^. Manipulators make themselves seem like victims really when they are the ones manipulating and bullying. Dealing with this right now myself. And the only way I can prove that what's been said is false, is by showing proof that it is false, which is difficult. Not impossible, but difficult. For example, my supervisor yelled at me for not doing something she said she told me to do. Except the time in which she was saying she told me to do this thing, she was out of town, and I have no emails or phone calls on record from her during this time period. So unless she's telepathic, there is no physical way that what she's saying happened, happened. But to do that, and to prove that this didn't happen, I have to confront my boss and point out to her that it's not possible. I don't want to be reprimanded for a mistake I didn't make, but I also don't want to be confrontational with my boss, who does manipulate and is a bully. Well, ex-boss. I don't have to deal with her anymore. But I am in a similar situation now with something else. Fortunately I have witnesses, so I am hoping I will be believed.

If you can start to look for a different job, that's what I would do. Working for someone who manipulates like that can make life hell. You dread going into work because you don't know what lies you will be forced to deal with or what defenses you will be forced to use. You can never just be calm and do your job. You always have to look out for the next sneak attack.

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