Hello Cotton Candy Locks --

This is a complicated issue, isn't it? I, too, rankle when people use "being helpful" as backhanded criticism: Oh, you look so good in that. It really minimizes your hips." Translation: What a big butt you have.

On the other hand, I appeciate it when people care enough about me to tune into how I'm feeling and empathize. Or attempt to, even if they are wrong.

I hope that you will find the friends you need here. You can always exercise the option to "ignore" the messages from a particular sender.