If his wife has cancer, that may be the source of his lack of connection to you. Perhaps he has changed with all of his clients. It would make sense that it would be difficult to set that aside for sessions, and he probably can't just switch occupations-and maybe him quitting as your T would be even more painful.

I don't know that this means you should stay with T: that decision would depend on whether he is helping you. But maybe if that is what is going on it would be less painful for you to accept.