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Originally Posted by SalingerEsme
That is exactly how I feel. He takes it for granted. Once he told he was a very important figure in my life right now. Isnt that mine to say? I told him I felt like he was daring me to quit once, and he did listen better for a while.
I adore my T, and that is a problem- I told him so many things I have never told another human.
Makes hard to leave.
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You deserve a T who doesn't take you for granted. Could you raise this with him.and gauge his response?
I adored my ex T too but it turned out that I needed a T who's more flexible with a supervisor supporting that flexibility. My ex T got discouraged by her supervisor from hugging me, touching my hand, going a little bit over time. It was not encouraged in the modality she practices.
Whereas my current T is a much better fit because she's trained in treating trauma, is very flexible yet strong consistent boundaries, understands that we're way more than our symptoms. T believes in partly meeting some emotional needs while strengthening my coping skills, working with me to build a support network etc. Getting my emotional needs partly met in therapy has reduced the agonising longing to be seen, heard, heart loved, mind known.
I still miss ex T 3 years on. Really. But the longing has lessened over time.