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Old Mar 21, 2018, 02:21 AM
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Originally Posted by QuietMind View Post
You deserve a T who doesn't take you for granted. Could you raise this with him.and gauge his response?

Whereas my current T is a much better fit because she's trained in treating trauma, is very flexible yet strong consistent boundaries, understands that we're way more than our symptoms. T believes in partly meeting some emotional needs while strengthening my coping skills, working with me to build a support network etc. Getting my emotional needs partly met in therapy has reduced the agonising longing to be seen, heard, heart loved, mind known.

I still miss ex T 3 years on. Really. But the longing has lessened over time.
That sounds amazing to fit with a therapist like that. I hope I can find that.

Why do you think you miss your other T? Doyou think their withholding evokes more needs for them in us?

My T did talk about compassionate witness- and he was that while we processed trauma . I'll be right with you, right here, take a risk. . .'

I dont know what happened- it isnt like that now.
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Thanks for this!
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