I think QM's therapist sounds a lot like mine: lots of flexibility and wanting to understand all my needs and meet the ones she can. She's okay with me leaning on her while I heal. She's also very humble. She has told me a few times that the most important thing she can do is be present as a fellow human, that yeah, she has training and techniques, but at the end of the day we're both just people figuring things out. I think the somewhat more level playing field has helped me realize my own power, and I like that she and I work together to find the path forward.

I don't know exactly what your trauma background looks like, but I do wonder whether somebody who is trained to work with soldiers can really necessarily understand all kinds of trauma without additional training and experience. People who had an okay upbringing and then experienced something horrible will have different experiences and needs than people who didn't have the okay upbringing in the first place. I agree with people who are saying that you should bring this up with your T if you haven't already, but I don't get the sense that he prides himself on his flexibility or attunement.