I think I need to ask you to please bow out of this conversation. I don't mean to be rude, but you aren't grasping that this man is a covert narcissist and extremely dangerous and abusive.

I'm doing pretty well today. I'd like to stay well. I don't need doubt entering in again, bringing me back to the place where I'm questioning everything. He did that. He made me doubt everything about myself, my judgment, even my sanity. I was incredibly suicidal at least three times in this relationship, and twice in the week I was with him in Knoxville alone. And he just laughed.

Two weeks after all of this happened, he flirting heavily with the woman he cheated on me with. Exactly like he does with all women. It's like I didn't exist--thirteen years, and I am a vapor. He got what he needed from me, and I'm on the trash heap, just like the rest of the women he "dated" and no longer speaks to. That cut me deeply, but I have to remember that eventually, this woman will figure it out, too. He goes for the weakest of the herd, and she's perfect: not that smart, a little timid, overweight, brand new to the area, seems to be insecure, not many male friends. Perfect. It's like taking candy from a baby. Just like with me, only I basically served myself up to him on a silver platter.

So please, do not try and convince me how this man "cared about" me. Thank you.