work on you. enjoy your time alone even if that seems impossible. being detatched has it's benefits and independence is great also. and also a good thing. when we find our own voice, our own independence finding a mate that fits that new person will be more likely to be the right one. but anyway..

also I've actually told someone these things recently after having let myself get caught up in some romantic online thing and becoming a bit infatuated with her. My friend was trying to give me advice and I agreed as this was after the fact but I told her "when you let the emotional side of things direct you, you don't want to see or hear about the questions you already have about them, you're heart says I don't care, I want her/him" you throw out things that should be flags. I know all too well how that happens so I won't judge, we all do that.

I've been in situations for months where I'd been lied to in grandiose ways.. and let it happen even as the inner voice was trying to warn me.