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Originally Posted by s4ndm4n2006
work on you. enjoy your time alone even if that seems impossible. being detatched has it's benefits and independence is great also. and also a good thing. when we find our own voice, our own independence finding a mate that fits that new person will be more likely to be the right one. but anyway..
also I've actually told someone these things recently after having let myself get caught up in some romantic online thing and becoming a bit infatuated with her. My friend was trying to give me advice and I agreed as this was after the fact but I told her "when you let the emotional side of things direct you, you don't want to see or hear about the questions you already have about them, you're heart says I don't care, I want her/him" you throw out things that should be flags. I know all too well how that happens so I won't judge, we all do that.
I've been in situations for months where I'd been lied to in grandiose ways.. and let it happen even as the inner voice was trying to warn me.
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Thanks for all of this. I really did let him lie to me even though my intuition was screaming at me. For a
very long time. I'm glad I had the courage (the insanity? HA) to message the woman. Wasn't even the woman I'd initially suspected. His patterns are just
so stinking predictable that I was like, look. I'm never going to be in that area, if she thinks I'm crazy, I don't care. She doesn't have to message me back. And if she does, then I can finally put to bed this nagging feeling I've had for a very, very long time that he's been systematically lying to me. Didn't take much. No stalking involved like he loves to imply.
It sort of annoys me that she didn't seem to care about what I had to say, and is still into him anyway. But then again, that's his favorite target. Willfully ignorant. Just glad I didn't end up taking that assignment down there like I'd been planning to.
Incidentally, I broke my foot the night I put wheels into motion to do so. Had to pass the job onto someone else, since I can't work for over two months. Coincidence? Maybe.