I don't want to belabor the (possibly) obvious and/or I may be way off base here, but are there (possibly) numbed out hurts from your past which his behavior is triggering? That's something that I believed happened, or may have happened, with my last T. She didn't handle it at all well IMO. Her own stuff, probably, but because of my own stuff it went down very horribly for me. Still, after we parted ways I eventually felt the hurt not just from her but from my past. Don't know what to do about that, how to integrate it, make a new life, etc. And for me personally I'm unwilling/unable to try any more practitioners of that profession. Although I consider it almost daily. I need some help somewhere I think. Though maybe not, just some toughening up.