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Originally Posted by fille_folle
And fwiw, I don't think seeing him 2x/week is some sort of privilege you should feel grateful for. He's getting paid for it. If he didn't see you an additional time, he'd just be seeing someone else. I can understand feeling grateful that you can afford to see him twice a week, but I really don't think you need to feel grateful towards him. If he's doing something to make you feel like seeing him twice a week is a favor, that's some bs.
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I agree with this. My T has recently started seeing me twice a week. Maybe the second or third week he offered me a second session, I thanked him and said I wouldn't take advantage of it too much, that I really appreciated his letting me have a couple extra sessions. His response was that he didn't know how I would take this, but that this is his job, we have a professional relationship, and as long as I pay him and he has the time slot available, I can have a session. Which...actually felt OK to me. It means he's not doing a favor. It doesn't feel like something he's offering me that he could then decide to take away (like free unlimited outside contact with ex-T or MC). I know some T's do have rules about clients only being able to come in once a week, so my T is flexible in that sense. But it doesn't feel like a favor, it feels like something I'm paying him for. Which, again...I feel like that sounds bad in a way, because it's emphasizing the professional, rather than personal, part. But it also feels safer and more secure.