Hi everyone,

Wow, there's been a lot of action here on this thread today!

Pachy, I suspect we have a lot in common, both with the experience of sometimes bumbling T's and the experience of trying to have our needs met and being bashed for that. (Which probably makes it even more difficult to ask for help from T.)

Jello,

Whoa. If anyone mentions goals I'd be running in the opposite direction. Don't fence me in. My original goal in seeking therapy was for help in coping because I felt like I was losing my mind so my goal was to remain in one piece...

McKell,

I'm a teacher too. Maybe you can think of it this way. I have lesson plans but I keep them flexible. Today, for example, the kids were antsy (too much indoor time). So, we played vocabulary ball. We tossed a rubber band ball around the room and worked on vocab for the novel we are reading. Of course, they wanted to play vocab dodge ball but I had to draw the line! So, I guess what I am saying is lay out a flexible plan for yourself but be flexible with it the same way you would for your students. And, no I do not believe you have to trust anyone until you feel they have earned your trust and you feel safe. Then you will be able to give of yourself willingly without looking over your shoulder and accept T's offerings with your heart. Take your time, it's okay.

Peace