I've been doing some serious reading about alexithymia since yesterday evening when I accidentally stumbled on an article that shocked me with how accurate some of the stuff was in it. Since then I've read Sifneos's original paper too (he coined this term originally), and that shocked me even more. And other writings... Maybe this is actually something useful finally... It's actually given me some positivity about some relationship stuff despite some pessimistic sounding prognoses in those papers (not all of it was pessimistic). It made me see my role in some issues better. (Along with other people's roles too, of course.) That helps and I started feeling better about some reactions of some people too. And the chat today with some members was very good too - thank you all again for that!