I know I've changed since the stress/menopause/MI tornado came down upon me in 2012. One of the biggest parts of therapy with old T was to re-establish an identity once I lost my job, because work was a big part of my self-worth. I also know that lack of self is part of BPD, so I had to work on that too.

I do have a new identity now. I can't go back to who I was. I'm getting used to the skin I'm in at the present. That doesn't mean I'm unsure at times--especially if I dream about work and being happy there. (Plus being a lot thinner and prettier.) For the most part, though, I stay in the present identity.