Yes, I’ve told her how it makes me feel without trying to attack her on the subject. Emotionally it hurts but I acknowledge I cannot force someone to like another person. She tells me “I feel the way I feel and I’m sorry it bothers you but you will just have to ignore me.” and I suppose she is right seeing as she probably won’t change her mind on the matter. It’s not so much her not liking him as it is the negativity that happens even when his name is brought up. When I tell her it hurts and it’s awkward even having him around because of tension she says it is because I make it awkward. My mother is civil around my boyfriend, she isn’t hateful or confrontational with him so I appreciate that but knowing how much she dislikes him makes it hard to just think “everything’s ok.” My boyfriend has no strong opinions on my mother ( I do not relay what she thinks of him because that would do nothing but anger/upset him; as it would with anyone). They haven’t had time to get to know each other but my boyfriend is rather introverted and my mother doesn’t even like the idea. (For example: just recently I asked my mom if she would like to attend an Event in DC. I asked my boyfriend as well and confronted her about us all going. She frowned a bit and said “I would enjoy that but if you already asked ____ that is ok. You don’t have to feel guilty going with him.” .....except that wasn’t the point. The point was to have a good time in an open environment so we could all mingle/hangout and now I do feel guilty because she said she would like to go but since he’s going she’d rather not). It’s just an overall emotionally stressful situation. I know it’s in my best interest to ignore her opinion on him and do what makes me happy but it’s just such a strong feeling to fight when my mother has played such a huge role in my character/upbringing. Thank you for your response by the way; I know it was quite the long read.