Your boyfriend needs to grow up. His therapist is a nut-job.

Maybe you can salvage this relationship . . . and maybe you can't. At least learn from this experience. Your past is two things: #1 - It's yours. #2 - It's past. Do not go giving detailed reports about your past to anyone, especially not to any man you plan on building a future with. I don't say that because I think you have anything to go around feeling shame over. I say that because putting out TMI (too much info) is just plain foolish.

Men are very visual, especially regarding women. A man will conjure up images in his mind to illustrate anything sexual that you report. Then a man often can't purge those "vusuals." So they stay posted up on the interior walls of his mind. In future, don't go littering a man's mental landscape with debris from your past that needs to be left in the past. Learn to move on. Don't keep pumping energy into stuff that should be allowed to wither.

If you have the idea that sharing this stuff about what you did where and with whom is a way of being genuine and honest, get rid of that idea. It's a dumb idea. There are good, healthy ways of being honest . . . and there are dumb, pointless ways of not knowing when to keep your business to yourself. Maybe you think real love means having no secrets. Baloney! Maturity means having discretion. Discretion means knowing what to say and what not to say. There is nothing admirable about being a blabbermouth.

If this guy leaves you just over this, then he's not worth having. By age 29, most of us have wracked up some experiences that deserve to be forgotten. What you have related is not that big of a deal - in this day and age. Do not embrace a bunch of guilt over a learning process you needed to go through.