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Originally Posted by Alchemy
I have a HUGE problem with stuff if someone tells me I can have it and then not have it, Like one time I wanted to buy something and my dad all the sudden said that and I became very very awful. but before him saying it and realizing he can't I wasn't even slightly like that! and one time I was about to get something really important (not a product or anything, my estrogen (pills)) but then suddenly couldn't and I still am super upset and down about it  though that was a life altering could potentially stop my suffering thing. I don't know why I'm like this |
I would explore the above more; tell myself that it is not about the particular thing but about the can/cannot having? Shift your perception a bit so you are looking at all the can/cannot have situations in your life and where they come from and why, etc., work on that background and maybe it will all slowly resolve as you get to know yourself better.
I get angry when I get helpless and sometimes what happens does not make sense to me; like I'll get really bad road rage which is "not me". Well, now I have learned to stop and realize it is not about whatever incident caused the road rage but about something else in my life, some other trigger that is making me feel helpless and I go looking for that, the "real" trigger, instead of needing to focus on the idiot
who cut in front of me or whatever.
Maybe if you start thinking something simple like, "Oh, it's just the can/cannot have thing again" that will help ease some of the obsession?