(((confused))) Please contact your local women in distress shelter/hotline... even if you don't leave him, they will advise you on your options and the resources available, and what to do for now, and how to be ready in case of an emergency...

AND impo if you are having that type of response to your trauma sessions (after session) then you are still going too fast. Maybe you could only work on trauma the first 15 minutes of session and then work on stablizing and all those feelings that you are left with dealing with at home, the other minutes of session??? Work it out with your T, as it doesn't matter how slowly she is going, it is still going too fast for you??? imo