Hi Everyone. Thanks for all your responses!

I also get the feeling that she is benevolent (and a gossip). Well meaning, and wanting to know me, and curious (and really, nosy, with poor boundaries). Though she certainly is curious about one particular thing (my employment status). But also I do not trust her. I just don't. I feel quite bristled by these work questions. She is quite social actually. She is with people all the time and I hear her loud voice all the time saying hello to our neighbors, who stop to talk to her: The ones who smoke, I think, actually, who she complained about to me. Perhaps she is just flawed, like the rest of us. Something IS telling me not to discuss this with her, and I know I have that right. I do wish I was more comfortable talking about my situation of disability with strangers. But I am not, and I will not push myself. My problem today was that I froze when she asked me about it. She doesn't seem to have the insight that she is making me uncomfortable. I like FallDuskRain's comment "it's my least favorite topic." I will probably say "it's boring and I don't like to talk about it "next time. I'm not good at always switching the subject though. I sometimes just freeze and cannot think of anything to say except to answer the person's questions.