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Originally Posted by FallDuskTrain
A big FAT yes, of course they would also bail on me. I am speaking from experience. I ignored my intuition and have repeated this mistake many times, thinking that I had made a genuine connection and developed a true friendship and then boom! This, of course, made me realize that if someone is gossiping or bad mouthing others, they will do the same to me. And. the most important lesson of all was about the victims. Someone who plays the victim, which i used to have a lot of compassion for, is the actual bully. It took me a lot of heart aches to realize this.
So, if someone is rude to others, they are likely to be rude to you as well; if someone bails on others, they are likely to bail on you as well; if someone gossips about others, they are likely to gossip about you as well; and lastly if someone is playing the victim and saying how many times she/he has been wronged by others, he/she is likely to be the bully herself.
Please be careful. Listen to your intuition.
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I totally agree and yes I always listen to my intuition. In the case of the friend that admitted to telling someone she was called into work, she rarely bails on me but when she does use that excuse, I always wonder if she islying. I know she jas work and it is possible to get called in, and usually I believe people who say they got called in. But with her, I still accept it and I don’t fight her, but in my mind, I am secretly thinking, does she really have work or is it just an excuse. That is the problem, never knkoe if she is being honest now. In most cases I believe people work is work and most people don’t want to blow off their employers. I know I wouldn’t out of fear of getting in trouble, but with her, it is questionable at times.