I couldn’t stand endless messaging either but men are just as scared of meeting someone crazy or being scammed just much as women and sometimes want to make sure the person isnt nuts or fake for a bit longer.

You can find out if they are nuts or incompatible before you directly call them? Maybe that’s what he is trying. Who knows

My husband never dated as he was married his whole adult life so he was petrified of the whole dating thing (before he met me he only talked to one woman on dating site and she turned out not being “yet” divorced, supposedly in the process but he freaked out). So that’s why I liked eharmony as it forces you to talk a bit longer via the site before you give away personal info.

I don’t know what the deal with this particular guy though. As others mentioned he might not even be single. Dating is unfortunately a number game.