I've struggled with that a lot and I have accused my T countless time about not caring about how I leave. But recently I understood that this is precisely what therapy is about. No one will change unless they are forced and this is precisely a situation that forces for change because otherwise things are very unpleasant. It forces you to find ways to regulate yourself better, to cope better, to switch better. The T doesn't have any magic means to make you suddenly do those things better. He can only help to create situations where you are forced to learn those things for your own good. This is how change happens and I assume that you are in therapy because you want to change. Therapy isn't supposed to be pleasant, I believe the best work occurs at the very boundary of being barely tolerable. I have learned it from my own experience.