My Ts have done their very best to not send me out distressed. Their methods have varied. T2 would offer to do "safe place" with EMDR, T3 talks me through grounding stuff, ex T would work with the presenting part, T1 talks to the little kids or whole group and will do check-ins or extra sessions.

That doesn't mean that I have never left distressed, but they have all been willing to take extra time and to try really hard to help me. I am now at the point where if I am running over time with T1, I can often muster up enough enough of a sense of trust/security/non-abandonment that I can tell him thanks for trying and leave. And sometime the fact that he tried can sustain my connection/non=abandonment until the next session. Not always-but it has improved. Right now T1 is out of town and I don't like it, but I am not freaked out by it. He took extra time with me before he left to help me settle and I know that he did that, and that he will do the same when he returns.

My most recent session with T3 went long because I switched; she started with telling me that I needed to leave in an adult space, but I wasn't leaving until I got an answer. We went 15 minutes over. I left ok.

I know that is not how all Ts operate, but mine all have/do. I would not continue therapy if they didn't. In January things were not going well with T3 and despite her efforts, I was almost always leaving upset and being all discombobulated between sessions. I took a break to see if that was better than seeing her. As it turned out, she called me and I have gone back and am glad I did. But for me, taking a break with no drama was a tool for me to decide if I wanted to continue or not.