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Originally Posted by BudFox
Wow. My experience was that the manufactured drama of therapy was not a vehicle for healthy change. It was a path to regression and dependency. It added a new and absurd layer of dysfunction onto existing difficulties. The situations created were fictional. They grew out of a simulated relationship with someone who was there to collect a fee, feed off the worship of the client-base, then go home to her real life. God help me if i had viewed this as compulsory. Breaking-up, to use SE's words, was a mess but ultimately the best thing.
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I am aware that this is your viewpoint and experience. My experience is different and I view this whole therapy endeavour differently.
For me it is not manufactured drama because who and how could manufacture it this way? This is the drama of my childhood and my T has given me the room and space to explore it. I can't say that I would be extremely grateful to him for that all the time because as I've said many times, it isn't pleasant. But this is my drama and my T does not manufacture it but rather accompanies me in it.
Also, my relationship with my T is not simulated but very real. I don't even see how someone could simulate a relationship. Even "simulated" relationship is some kind of real relationship. If due to the "simulation" it is not honest then it just isn't very good relationship and therapy in that relationship might not be possible.