Your situation reminds me of how things unfolded with my past T in some ways though my T seemed very different. He was always emotionally distant with me and authoritarian, but at the same time, was doing therapy with me through texts. A year or so in, he said we couldn't do it anymore. I was ok with quitting texts, just questioned his judgement about it in the first place.

Things just got worse with his distancing and coldness. When I'd describe my longing feelings for him and strong needs, he criticized me; even mocked me. It was horrible and damaging. At the same time I had different parts emerge that had never been 'out'. He handled it horribly. I've seen a T to help deal with the damage from that experience, and it turns out he thinks I have DID (and CTPSD), which is what my last long term T (before the damaging one) thought too. I don't think the rigidness and distance helps with certain trauma clients. In my case, my T was so far off.

But don't forget that Ts make many mistakes, so I personally don't think it's safe to automatically assume that because they are the T, they are right. Not sure what type of work you do, but I see many people around me making daily mistakes. Many small ones, but theoretical ones that impact subsequent activities, and single large, impactful mistakes too. I don't think it's different with therapists. Anyway, just wanted to say-don't rule out going with your gut. Take care.