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Old Feb 01, 2008, 12:59 PM
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Therapy does not solve problems, only an individual can do that. All therapy can do is give you the tools to solve your problems. But therapy isn't even about "physical" problems really, just about human interaction/communication. The bottom line is we only have our own lives to live and if something/someone else is causing us problems we can't really do much about that besides move away. If we're causing ourselves problems then understanding the dynamics can help so we can get personally unstuck.

I complained to my therapist about my boss at work and we determined that he hadn't and wasn't going to change after all those years doing the same things over and over. She said I could either quit the job or stay and get massively depressed, my choice :-) I picked a slightly sideways option as there were other things I wanted to explore and good relationships within the office to support me so I opted to stay a bit longer and just give as little attention to the boss/job as possible. I became part-time, which gave some relief and soon my boss quit his job so that particular "problem" for me went away.

The last time I was in therapy for 9 years and in about year 4 or so, my therapist said when my stepmother died, things would get simplier for me. She died in year 5-1/2 of therapy and things did get simplier but my own ways of relating, etc. I was still working on learning about and strengthening.

What is it you wish you could resolve that hasn't been addressed?
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