Peanuts, interesting about your in-laws. My husband's ex-wife's family is/was similar and now my stepsons and the rest of us tease and joke about the ex-wife, we had a bet about how long she could stay in her seat at Thanksgiving :-) The women in that family (the ex-wife's father left the family when the ex-wife and her sister were young girls) are constantly getting more food and making sure everyone is served and everything is all right, won't sit at the table with everyone else and just enjoy the meal.