Patty,

As I said in my post, I mostly have only guy friends, married & unmarried, so, NO, I don't think it's wrong to just communicate or be happy to hear from him, or any other guy friend.

The thing is that when you have friendships with married guys, you are the one that has to be very very strong & keep them in that friendship place. Your place isn't to give them what they are lacking in a marriage, or what they are just wanting a closeness at the time when they are with you. If it's a kiss on the cheek, that's one thing, but that kind of kissing I'm sure wasn't what make your thinking go off for awhile after being with him.

The problem is boundaries......& without them, you are just letting youself be places wherever someone wants to place you & then you have to figure it all out....or figure yourself out. That is why I keep my boundaries completely solid when it comes to relationships. Sadly, some guys just think it's ok to say they love a woman & kiss them like they really love them in that sense, not in the sense of a brother/sister relationship.

You say you THINK it's just fondness & friendship....if you only think & don't KNOW, that is where the problem lies. With a married person, you should KNOW what YOU will allow the relationship to be. I think that once you KNOW that the relationship is friendship, then it will be ok to continue it, but until you are in control of the relationship, I think you are only letting youself in for what ever rollercoaster he is on with his marriage. Yes, IMHO, I think that's wrong, but as I said, that is only my opinion, based on my belief value system & know that what is right for me, isn't right for others.

Please take care of yourself above all else,
Debbie