Yes, I agree, calmness is very helpful, Pachy, that's why I did so well, my therapist was always calm and soothing to my churned upitness! But that's not to say she knew "what" the confused thinking was about or how to straighten out the thinking. Calmness only helps that incident, didn't, for me, help the thinking.

I was telling my T about my husband and how helpful he was/is because he'll make matter-of-fact comments like, "I don't hear any nouns" (when he has no idea what the subject is I'm talking about) and that helps me know I need to stop and think about what I'm saying, get it straight in my head first and then speak in whole thoughts/sentences. I get going too fast and too many thoughts ricocheting around like ping pong balls. His words ground me and I can stop and start over slower. My T asked could she borrow that comment of my husband's :-)