My brother, stepmom and I collaborated on the obituary that we wrote for my dad. My stepbrother (who my dad always hated) has a very cute 6 year old little boy who I do love dearly. However, my dad also has a fully-formed, 7 months along biological granddaughter kicking away in my belly. We had written 'survived by... his grandchildren'. However, what got printed was 'survived by... his grandson'. I asked my stepmom how it got changed and she said that when the paper called to confirm the facts, she told them that one of the grandchildren isn't really a person yet (or something like that - I don't remember how she phrased it). That hurt me a lot - my daughter is absolutely a person and would survive even if born today. And she's more of my dad's grandchild than her grandson, who my dad barely spent any time with.

I just hate how her family members always overshadow mine. Not to mention that the will that she had my dad sign after his brain surgery leaves her with more than 80% of his estate; my/my brother's 20% is my dad's house, which we have to pay taxes on, maintain, and sell/rebuy at her request, but don't get to live in ourselves because she gets to live there for the rest of her life, cost-free. So essentially, her kids get 80% of my dad's net worth

thanks for letting me vent. None of it is worth acting on but my feelings are still there.