Hi, I am a new member on this site. And this is my first post here and I hope anyone can help me. I dated my ex for 4 years. Had a break in 2003 but nor i took it well nor did he. After a year of dating everything was fine with our relationship after that it went sour for the past 3 years. Alot of arguing, fighting, could barely tell me he loves me had problems with his family over our relationship. And that was getting us both down due to his family not approving over our relationship. I was head over heals with his man but I never got to know if he was the same towards me. Anyhow, during the past 3 years of the relationship we had so many up and down's. His mother was rude to me over the phone he took her side, i had reserved a plane ticket to go fix the relationship he stalled me from comming and came up with an dumb excuse not to fix our relationship i didnt want to end it, it was to hard. We had broken up so many time and got back together but it wouldn't work out like that so in May of 03 he left me. And came back 3 weeks later. I thought it was the end of the relationship so I moved on and found someone knew and started dating. I told him on yahoo chat and begged me to give him another chance but I didnt even though it was really hard on me. So we decided try to stay friends but with the friendship our communicaton had lessend. We would barely sperak but it would gone pick back up. I gotten engaged and a year later married. After that I had fallen into a big depression. I was expecting to get some of my personal belongings and thats when our fights started in 05 and resumed till 06. Not only that I had fallen into a big depression my marriage was in stake i coulodn't concentrate anymore i couldn't eat, sleep. And what made it worst was that when i had my depression at that time the name callings from him started, from my ex. he was cursing me out, acted like a dumb person as if he didnt know anything cuz he didnt want to get in trouble with the fiance. I called him couple of times trying to get some sort of closure from him he never wanted to discuss our siutation, with him not knowing what he was doing I had gotten Bi-Polar disorder. And all i tried to do was make him stop for a while but that didnt work either. We had a big blow at one point. He had said something nasty to me I left him a horrible message and was not replied after 4 months. He comes back and goes off on me again calling me every name in the book. I had told that idiot to go back and check those date on those message and if he hadn't replied that it wouldn't had gotten out of control. And at that time I was taking Real Estate class and I could barely concentrate. I warned him if he didnt cut out the crap that I would inform his family including his fiance. Basically I was fed up with his crap and I called talked to his sister but as soon as he found out it was me grabbed the phone started cusing me out and hung up the phone. Our issue's are not solved they will never be solved and it will always remain open and if he were man enough to sit down at least 10 minutes and discuss the issue's with me then it wouldn't had gotten so far and wouldn't put a strain in my marriage. I was taken to the hospital on trying to overdose on medication i felt more like an outsider. I pushed my family aside, my husband couldn't and wouldn't put up with me anymore and I had no where to go through. After i stay in the hospital they sent me to a Behavioral Center and after that I came home. I told my husband to send me somewhere where i can have alone time and really think what i wanted to do with my life I was sent back home to visit family that I didnt want to see due to my problems but I had tried to control myself for them not finding out. Yes, I saw the ex. I saw him and was still the same person. The same jerk I left 5 years ago. From the way I saw him he looked miserable. We went out for 30 minutes he had said something so stupid that really shocked me I wanted to slap him but I didnt, I didnt want to get in trouble with the law. I was shocked. We barely talked until he took me home. I didnt say goodbye or anything got up slammed the door and never looked back. After a couple of mintues later i called him back and apologized for my behavior and he told me in his language that he loved me but I hung up the phone and left the next day. I couldn't take it anymore. I came back and never spoke to him for a year. I dont know what happened to him. I dont know what triggered him. I know he drinks that for sure. Is he depressed I dont know. Does he have Bi-polar I dont know. And he hates it by the time I figure him out. he couldn't give me the closure I needed. I gave the closure to myself. But after all this I'm still scared if he will ever show back up in my life again and if he ever did I wouldn't know how to handel it. Due to his bad temper. Do I call the police. Do I get a restraing order against him even I dont have his address or anything else and I dont want to go to court for that try to get him restrained. I know for a fact that it would drive him more crazier like that. he has my parents phone number, he knows the address to my job and the number. I am mad, I am upset with things ended this wasn't the way I wanted things to be between he and I. But stuff happens for a reason doesn't it. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.