I'm there with you (but not having any problems with it). My husband and I are trying to make out our wills and are stalled as he wants to ensure, whatever is left when we've both died goes to his 3 sons, (equally, with my literal, redheaded stepson as executor). All well and good but to do that we have to put it in effect when either one of us dies which means, if he dies tomorrow it gets locked in cement and even if I live another 30 years and things change or his sons treat me badly, I remarry, etc. I wouldn't be able to change that part of the will. I wouldn't even be able to spend it except for certain things, mostly having to do with my upkeep, I wouldn't have any control over it, it would be in a special trust. The portion I would control is equally as large but still, I want it all!