I am learning non violent communication, NVC, for short. From what I understand so far, communication can be at the jackal level, which is your feelings of reacting, venting, linked to the past, interperating. If you instead, first observe the situation, explore your feelings, recognize you want to form a connection, offer empathy, find your need or the other person's need, then ask for a specific action to fulfill your need. This is called communication of a giraffe. You are looking from a high perspective on the situation. I love the idea of breaking communication down to all its parts and finding common ground with being vulnerable with your needs. I don't believe anyone gets to sit up high on the mountain and say they have the answers because they are emotionally mature. I have a relationship with a gentle curious person, I think we are all on a journey and I like to bring my heart along always.