We had a very solid foundation. We had a good marriage, despite his drinking. He decided to "cut back on drinking" on his own, so instead of getting wasted every night, he only did it on the weekends. As soon as he did that, he went off the rails. He was definitely self medicating for years. He said lots of childhood stuff surfaced and I think that's where the depression set in. He had a tough childhood with parents who went through a nasty divorce. There may be more I don't even know. So he gets mad that he can't just talk to his therapist about his "childhood stuff" bc he ends up talking about us fighting in there instead..like he wishes we all would just go away so he can focus only on that. Too bad, his behavior in our house is so awful, he and I fight all the time bc he's nasty to me and the children.