If it goes against everything that is seen as right? Continuing from my very first post, my mother and I do not speak. In the last 3 years we have tried to reconnect twice and each time similar destructive patterns have resurfaced.

My mom has hurt me in a very deep way, at a time where tragedy was already prominent in my life. Since then, my mom instead of acknowledging that pain will instead contact me and try and talk about other things. She will care enough to want me in her life, but not enough to deal with the scars in a healthy way. This has caused me time and time again to feel dismissed, disrespected, not accepted or worthy of love. I have practically laid out to my mom what to do to fix things, but she wont even acknowledge.

Example: Today my mom sends me a text in reference to my deceased Boyfriends mail from 3 years ago. Apparently she received a new piece of mail. Now he has been gone 3 years, any mail coming through still has no importance and should just be forwarded back. Frankly, it has nothing to do with me yet she texts me to bring up maybe giving it to his mother, in which I also have not spoken with. This is not the first conversation on this either. The last conversation I stated to just have any future mail sent back to the sender.

I feel this is her way of wiggling back in to spark up conversation about anything and everything to just throw things under the rug and act like nothing happened. Yet everytime this happens, I find myself being extremely angry at her. To me it feels like a slap to my face. Instead of initiating a conversation where we sit down and face our issues, I get the complete dismissal of how I feel.

I write this, because I need advice. I have tried so many time to voice my feelings, they have all been ignored. She wants a relationship without having to actual consider any feelings but her own. The only thing that I know to do at this point is to remain distant as things seem too unhealthy. Readers what do I do?