These are great questions, I think many here struggle with detachment/attachment/abandonment issues. Relationships are so complex and I’m certainly not an “expert”. Thanks for your reply to my thread, I wasn’t sure about my rant but I’m glad I did post it If some smart *** (like a certain therapist ) says something sarcastic and mean like “you poor hard done by thing” I either go straight back into my cave or show my teeth.