I had an interesting therapy session with my H & our psychologist before I finally left him.

My H refused to ever take responsibility for his behaviors & laid blame on everything & everyone other than himself. The conversation was about his unsuccessful career being because he went to a state university instead of Cal Tec. I point out in frknt of our psycholigist that my H's younger brother went to the same state university, got his masters there & ay the time was an deputy director of a local power plant. I pointed out that his failure had nothing todo with the school but his own attitude while attending because he had even admitted when we first met that he didn't bother doing the work in the classes where he KNEW he was smarter than the professor. All this came out in the session.

Our psycholigist pointed out that a sign of emotional maturity is about taking responsibility for one's own choices, behaviors, & thoughts. He also said that my H had the emotional maturity of a 12 year old given the conversation along with all the other issues including his financial irresponsibility. Instead of being responsible, if he wanted something, instant gratification was what he wanted instead of being responsible & waiting till the time & money was appropriate which was why he accumulated so much debt.

It is not easy to make a good separation between maturity & emotional maturity. It seems like immaturity in one usually includes immaturity in the other.