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Originally Posted by feileacan
Do you have children? Do you understand the concept of caring about them and at the same time knowing and accepting that they have to live their own lives with all their problems and frustrations and there is nothing you can do to take them away from them? Do you realise that at the same time as you care about them you also have to live your own life and at those moments that you are attending to yourself and other things in your life while you are not specifically attending to them they may feel that you don't care about them?
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Everyone understands the nature of the connection between parent and child.
What seemingly nobody can articulate is the nature of the connection between therapist and client, as evidenced by the endless stream of "does my therapist really care" posts on every forum and blog.
When people ask a therapist for clarity, as OP has, seems the response is almost always a bunch of incomprehensible weirdness and evasions, leaving the client reeling. This is considered "therapeutic".
I think when people have to ask if someone cares... the answer is in the question. You know, at a gut level, when something is off, just like a baby knows viscerally when the mother is genuinely attuned.