Background on his drinking. He drank to get drunk EVERY SINGLE DAY of our marriage to go to sleep. When we met in our 20's we had a lifestyle of going out all the time. Fast-forward to having children and I wanted him to slow down. Barely happened. He'd go on the weekdays sometimes just to get hammered on the weekends. All the drinking happens at home from dinnertime till he passes out.

I had to stop drinking due to a medical condition and he agreed to do it with me. He lasted 40 days and that's when the depression started to set in. He went back to getting wasted then tried to slow down again but the depression took over. The nights he didn't drink he'd roll around with insomnia. He didn't understand what was happening but it took me just a few short weeks to see he was suffering from depression. He self medicated for years. He still gets drunk a few nights a week. He's in denial he abuses alcohol and he has depression. I don't know what else to do.

We've essentially co-exist in the house now. He sleeps on the couch. I said he needs more help or it stays this way. He's convinced himself I'm the cause of all of his problems so he enjoys saying no to me. He's nothing like the man I married. I know he's hurting but he can't take it out on us. The yelling at my 7 and 4 year old boys has got to stop.