In January, I left for nearly the entire month in order to spend quality time with my father but I was also pondering my relationship a lot. I called him once a day (he couldn't get a hold of me) and journaled every morning--sometimes for hours. I figured the reason I have trouble sleeping is my relationship so I left behind my medication that helps me sleep. I still had a lot of trouble sleeping. I have to admit that since January, I have learned that he is not the biggest reason for my insomnia. I have anxiety which maybe the biggest cause of my insomnia and he is one of the things I worry about because he is the person I spend the most time with. Recently, my H went to visit his mother 3 or 4 times, leaving on Wed and returning on Sat. He called once a day. We texted a lot each Sat in anticipation of his Sat return. For me, the shorter separations seemed to do the most good. Or maybe it is better because I have recommitted myself to taking my medication, reducing caffeine and trying not to let my emotions carry me away. I think separation can be very good for a relationship. You can think and journal about what they mean to you. If you love them, absence makes the heart grow fonder.