Man.....I am so sorry this happened to you....I have had betrayals in my life...from family...it eats away at you....You are never going to be able to understand what would make another person do this...because if you stand from a place of integrity...it won't be possible....EVER....I think you may need to actually grieve....because your mother died in a way far beyond just the physical....she died in the way you held her in your heart...the promise of what a mother is....that has to cut so very deep...it is a wound that opens over and over again....

I wish I could tell you what to do to help...often people tells one to get over it...or to deal with it....and that always drove me to the brink of violence...if I knew how don't you think I would....it frustrated me....especially in the case of injustice....someone had me read a book they wrote....and out of all the things in it...one thing stuck with me....that when people said things like deal with it...the author said...change the word deal to be.....be with it....sometimes...facing what is...is the only way to move....beyond something....and I found that I could be with it...or just be with a situation...it is the falsehood you struggle with...so just be with the reality for a while....your mother and sister are thieves...liars and untrustworthy...be with that for a while....

When people say something to you about your situation...tell them your truth....it is like women getting beat up...they don't want to tell people...so the abuser gets no public repercussions...I had a friend whose husband gave her two black eyes...she didn't hide she went out in public and when someone asked what happened...she told everyone her husband beat the **** out of her....he never hit her again....

Did the lawyers do something unethical?....because there can be recourse from that if so...

I know how the mind will go over and over and over something....it is reliving something that is gone...yet it brings it back for you to live over and over....there is something I do...when I can catch myself...repeating thoughts...or mentally reliving an event....bring my mind back to what is at the end of my nose.....what is present in this moment...it may be your wife...or a child....or a garden...often where we are in the moment is lovely and comforting....it does help....

Through therapy I know that men gather their own worth by how well they provide for their family.....You did provide for your family...hindsight is a cheater.....in the moment you were doing the best that you could...with the information you had...the effort for what you believed to be true....no one thinks their mother is going to rip them off...mother is the first embedding of trust in our human lives....they are our mother's...!!!!!...of course you are going to believe them....and you were working....
towards a goal....don't beat yourself up for that...betrayal is not from you.....

It took me years to get over the betrayals acted upon me....it changed me forever....and I never looked at the family the same....other family came into my life....opening up about what happened.....instead of keeping it bottled up....allows solutions to arrive from places you might not have thought of....

I have just rambled on at you...writing words...when I know they are just words....I can't reach in and take the ache out of your heart...or smooth over your life....I wish I could....just as you wish you could for your family....just be there for them....love them.....for you are what matters...your presence....that is the comfort of love.....I hope you can find peace....talking about things helps....it really does....