To me, the fact that he told you to trust him raises some alarms. Not so much because I can identify that it is wrong, as that my therapists have never tried to persuade me to trust them, especially with that sort of emotional appeal. When I have expressed fear about disclosing things, or they knew I was holding back, their response was not to urge me to just trust them (although I think that's the response I was subconsciously looking for). Last time I expressed fear about telling my longtime T something, because I was afraid she would judge me, she only said, "I know you are. Because it's something you wouldn't tell most people." My current T has only said that it is up to me whether I tell her things, but that it might be helpful.

While neither of these responses is particularly reassuring, they did help me feel more personal agency. If my T just outright asked me to trust her, it would feel like I couldn't say no. That by not giving into her request, I would be rejecting T and her help.