What I'm doing is challenging what I see as an aggressive assertion that parent-child and therapist-client ought to be seen as closely related parallel constructs, that the nature and extent of the caring is comparable, and that SE will be freed from her predicament by adopting this view. I find it disturbing to have such an assertion just hanging there. Seems her therapist is playing typical therapist mind games, and someone needs to point out that possibility. If everyone lines up on the side of therapy orthodoxy, that's how people get hurt.